An Interview Series with John Gray

John Gray, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from VenusI got together with John Gray, a good friend and colleague, to discuss the unique challenges facing parents of children with special needs.

I approached John because through my work with children with special needs over the past 30 years, I have witnessed the remarkable demands placed on these parents that often lead to great stresses on the relationship.

Extraordinary Relationships for Parents of Children With Special Needs

Any couple knows how the blessing of a child being born into the family can challenge the relationship between his or her parents. When the child has special needs, these challenges grow exponentially, stressing the relationship in ways most couples are not prepared for. It is no surprise, therefore, that some studies suggest that the rate of divorce amongst couples with children with special needs is higher than in the general population.

With the right tools, parents of children with special needs can learn additional ways to relate to each other that will strengthen their connection and love and help them become a more powerful team in providing their child with the best future possible.

NOTE: The Parenting Tips that we discuss are for any parent, whether you have a child with special needs or not.

John Gray With Anat Baniel: 20 Suggestions on Parenting a Child With Special Needs

Our intention with this series of blog posts is to help change this trend of higher divorce rates by first recognizing the extraordinary challenges placed on your relationship, and then by providing practical and straightforward tools to work with.

View the video clips of my interview with John Gray and read our Parenting Tips on the HuffPost:
Parenting Tip 1 – Communication and Managing Stress
John Gray With Anat Baniel: 20 Suggestions on Parenting a Child With Special Needs – Tip 1

Parenting Tip 2 – Learning How to Communicate at Difficult Times – Taking a “Time Out”
Time Outs Are Not Just for Children

Parenting Tip 3 – Recognizing Defensiveness – Learning How to Use “Buffer Phrases” to Soften Communication
How to Win in the Blame Game

Parenting Tip 4 – Starting Over Is Easy To Do
Making Decisions When You and Your Partner Disagree

Parenting Tip 5 – How to Remain Together
Beating the Odds of Divorce When Your Child Has Special Needs

Parenting Tip 6 – From Fixing to Connecting With Your Special Needs Child
Why Trying to ‘Fix’ Your Child Is Not a Good Idea

Parenting Tip 7 – What to Do About Feeling Guilty When You Have a Child With Special Needs
It’s Not Your Fault, Really!

Parenting Tip 8 – Men and Women Manage Stress Differently
Is Stress Hurting Your Relationship? What Can You Do About It?

Parenting Tip 9 – Understanding and Providing for His and Her Special Needs
See the 2nd video clip in this article: Your Relationship Has Special Needs

Parenting Tip 10 – When Your Child With Special Needs Starts Acting Out
Is Your Child Acting Out? The 4 ‘R’s’ That May Be Causing It

Parenting Tip 11 – This video tip was a duplicate of a previous one.

Parenting Tips 12 & 13 – The Art of Asking for Help and Effective Communication
Is Your Partner Disappointing You? 4 Steps to Getting What You Need and Want

Parenting Tips 14 & 15 – Communicate Without Complaining and Recognizing Her Need to Vent
Are You Just Venting and He Feels Criticized? How You Can Turn This Around

Parenting Tips 16 & 17 – The Venus Talk for Her and What to Do for His Suffering
Coping With Stress: Hers and His

Parenting Tips 18 & 19 – Managing Our Desire to be Perfect and Becoming an Enlightened Parent
Try Enlightenment Instead of Perfection

Parenting Tip 20 – Making Time for Romance for the Busy Parent
Reduce Stress: Make Time for Romance in 3 Easy Steps